A busy day 09/09/2009
 
First I want to thank everyone for their love and support. Wow. I am so glad I have tough skin. I now understand how Brittany Spears and the Atlanta Housewives must feel. LOL. Well inspite of all the negative comments we are doing well and excited about all the responses and feedback we are receiving from family, friends and all the ones that do not like our idea.

On a lighter note we have two more wonderful sponsors that have offered their services to our big day.

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Comments

Lauren

Wed, 09 Sep 2009 17:16:27

Congratulations! It's nice to see black people in love. Good luck to you. May you have a bright and happy future. :)

 

Sharon Titus

Wed, 09 Sep 2009 17:31:28

Hi there! First of all, I have to say that this is the most INGENIOUS idea I've heard of for a wedding! I think it's absolutely wonderful! I don't know you, (I'm from Salt Lake City, UT) but I saw your story on the yahoo homepage and had to have a look at the blog. I think it's great. I've helped and been a part of several friends' weddings over the years and I think this is a tremendous idea. I admire your courage and tenacity to follow through with it. Don't let the critics get you down...Who follows what Emily Post says nowadays anyway? We're in a recession! The modern middle class can't afford to host an elaborate wedding, let alone a small intimate gathering anymore. And I think this is a fabulous way to lovingly involve your guests. It's really exciting. Who knows? This idea might really take off!

 

Dalii

Wed, 09 Sep 2009 18:15:00

Good luck to you both!
I don't see anything wrong with asking people to give cash instead of creating a registry.

My fiance and I have been living together for a year and have had the whole house warming and cannot imagine what we would do with 14 towels or $1000 china, so we're asking people to just give us cash which we're putting toward a "Car Fund". If we could register for a Honda Accord we would : )

Again best of luck! Very creative and brave, I would not do as well with the negative comments.

 

Liz

Wed, 09 Sep 2009 19:22:43

just wanted to send some incouragment your way. Your statement was way true. People that register at place are asking for some rediculious stuff and if they were gonna give you a gift then why not just the money. When my husband and i got married we didn't need anything so i didn't do any kind of registry and people who came to my wedding most of them just gave money. I think its stupid that people ask for gift period for weddings anymore. Most people already live together and have everything. Its new times! Everything changes and your just laying the concret for others. People will follow. and they won't be big news. Congrats on the wedding and hold in there!

 

Jennifer

Wed, 09 Sep 2009 19:26:09

How pathetic!!

 

Unknown Texan

Wed, 09 Sep 2009 20:01:15

Hello Vanessa and Cole,
I very much admire your creativity and was really intrigued with reading your article posted on Yahoo. I know what you must be going through in these times and wish you many blessings upon your wedding. I do not have any financial means to offer you but I do believe you will make your mark! I don't believe in anyway that what you are asking is tacky or any of the negative connotations that have been made, I do believe you are couple who are willing to show each other, your friends, and family you love one another and are committed to each other and the vowels you will make. That takes guts! :) You are right the world is watching you!
Many blessings,
Unknown Texan :)

 

Elizabeth H. Corona, CA

Wed, 09 Sep 2009 20:12:24

Hello,
I read your story on ABC News online and I must say that I love your idea! When my husband and I got married, we had already lived together for over a year and didn't need any of the "traditional" wedding gifts. We wanted to ask for cash instead of gifts, but decided to ask for gift cards to our favorite restaurants and stores. Setting up an account for people to donate money to, is an awesome idea! We also had people who offered to help us. A friend married us, another made our wedding cake, another was our DJ and my father and his friends played during the reception. It's awesome to have people in your life who want to help you and want to be a part of the beginning of their friends' lives as a married couple.

 

Lindsay

Wed, 09 Sep 2009 20:26:00

I'm in the middle of wedding planning myself, and I say more power to you. I doubt your guests would want bring you gifts you don't want or need.

In response to the DIY woman who said this is "in bad taste," I say vendors hiking their fees 50% for weddings is in bad taste.

And to call you selfish, one would need never to have seen how much weddings actually cost.

Best of luck for your big day and a happy life to follow!

 

stormy

Wed, 09 Sep 2009 20:30:06

honestly this is the best idea ever, i would rather have money then gifts that i would never use and most of the things you get you more then likely already have. Kudos to you both and congrats on the big day

 

Leanne

Wed, 09 Sep 2009 21:24:21

I wanted to commend you with your "thick skin" to post not only the positive, but the negative comments. I think this is a wonderful idea. I would not be surprised if this idea doesn't catch on.
Congratulations on the wonderful life you two have built together and best wishes for the days ahead. I am glad that you have not been discouraged.

Leanne from Texas

 

Lisa

Thu, 10 Sep 2009 07:53:55

Ummmm it's Britney Spears!!!! Thank u! LOL I love you guys!!!

 

Broke Bride-to-Be

Sat, 12 Sep 2009 19:25:20

I'm not sure if you've seen my blog, which has been up since March - www.helpmepayformywedding.com. It's a very similar idea. When I started it, I got some outraged responses as well... but the way I see it is - if you're offended by the idea, then don't think about it. :)

Best wishes for your wedding!

Broke Bride-to-Be

 

Sunday Thompson

Thu, 17 Sep 2009 10:00:48

I was a little skeptical at first when I read the article on AJC.com, however after reading your blog and story about your relationship I truly opened up. This is a wonderful idea! I am planning my own wedding and because budget is an issue, I was looking to cut so many things out and it's getting to the point where it will nolonger be my "dream day". You found a way to make it possible to have your dream day without going broke...and with the support of your family and friends I'm sure your wedding will surely be a day to remember. Congratulations and thank you for the inspiration not only for me but, for all future couples trying to make it happen! Good luck :-)

 

Beth

Fri, 02 Oct 2009 09:19:37

hey! I totally support your idea because im doing it too! I had no idea that there was another couple with the same mind set! Good luck!

 

Miss Hortense

Tue, 06 Oct 2009 21:19:23

Good luck. But remember, when it comes down to it, all the pomp and circumstance of a wedding party means nothing. The important thing is the day-to-day celebration of your love that you show each other when no guests are watching and taking pictures. That's why I like the traditional wedding gift -- i.e., pots, pans, money to be used for a down payment on a house or for bedroom furniture. These become part of the fabric of a marriage. Good luck getting people to pay for the party.

 

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